About Andrew and our Mission

The best people in the world don’t come around that often they say that if you are lucky enough to meet a superhero you have hit the lottery that is what my brother was to me he was my superhero. Okay well maybe not everybody gets to actually meet a superhero but they do exist, mine did. One of the coolest, funniest, most loyal, and most caring people I have ever known. and I don’t just say that because he was my little brother it’s true he was one of my favourite people and would be the type of guy to give you his last dollar in his wallet to help someone out. Andrew was my brother and was one of my best friends in the whole world, he was so special to all of his family and the best uncle on the planet, his friends loved him, loved playing soccer and just. He knew so many people and had many countless friends he made over his 37 years between school, work, and his passion for playing soccer. He was a genuinely great guy

On April 30, 2022, I woke up early in the morning to learn that my brother, my best friend, and everything had taken his own life. There are no words to describe the feeling you have as a person hearing that news, it is so painful that shock and tragedy don’t even give it enough merit. I was, I am and I will be forever changed as a human being and I feel devastated that we will never get to have another moment together.

I wanted to write this from my heart as a big sister I have always felt that Andrew my little brother was mine to protect. I want to demonstrate to honour my brother’s memory that when you get to do hard things in life that is an honour, when you fight to be brave and show up unapologetically that’s a gift. Andrew, I will treasure the moments I spent with you in this life as your sister for the rest of mine. I hope that you will see a different world through my lens that holds bravery, strength, and courage and my life legend lives on with you by its side.

It is so hard to write this – this small number of words and stories onto paper to talk about my brother, I honestly could talk for days with stories and good times past. But over the past 18 months, Andrew was trying to navigate through very difficult waters in life and most of us were offering him hands of support and encouragement. I would offer coaching, books, encouragement, support, a new job, a new beginning anything to help him smile and find a purpose.

But no matter the strongest light in his world, if there was darkness around he was being pulled closer toward it. Those bright lights were consumed by darkness.

Our words matter and with our words, they are tied to emotion and then action. Anger is an empty emotion that can often spiral into negative outcomes – it is hard for me to turn off anger right now.

Shame is another emotion that is empty and often one that we all if we are being honest have made ourselves feel at one point or another.

Self-shaming and negative talking are how some of us treat ourselves not just others. We will spend all our time on the 5% of the shit in our lives rather than the 95% that is good. It doesn’t take much to become that person … In fact, arguably some of us might be doing this right now.  

When you shame someone that is entirely different from offering accountability to them. Holding someone accountable for their actions is like holding a mirror up to their reflection, shaming someone is like ripping their heart out to be tortured.

 If there is anything to take away from Andrew’s precious life, remember that your words cannot fix what emotions triggered by actions have broke. Embrace the hard in life and may you offer accountability in place of shame.

May Andrew rest well and be free from all of his darkness – until we meet again little brother.

I love you x Your Sis